Always look to the good side of men and matters. Even when you come across people who are rude to you, feel that god has provided you with an opportunity for strengthening your mind through their behavior. Always see what is good in others in order to develop that particular good quality in yourself.
See no evil. But if you happen to notice any, see that evil does not come to you. God created both good and evil in this world for us to learn. From the good we learn to be good and from the evil we learn to be free from evil. Therefore, both good and evil are
really good only.
Make others happy as you strive to make yourself happy. Speak a helpful world. Give a cheering smile. Wipe the tears of one who is in distress. Render smooth a rough place on another path. Regard your neighbors happiness as your own happiness, and your neighbours pain as your pain.
No Overpowering: Key to happiness and success
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
Once upon a time, there was a king who ruled a prosperous country. One day, he went for a trip to some distant areas of his country. When he was back to his palace, he complained that his feet were very painful, because it was the first time that he went for such a long trip, and the road that he went through was very rough and stony. He then ordered his people to cover every road of the entire country with leather.
Definitely, this would need thousands of cows' skin, and would cost a huge amount of money.
Then one of his wise servants dared himself to tell the king, "Why do you have to spend that unnecessary amount of money? Why don't you just cut a little piece of leather to cover your feet?"
The king was surprised, but he later agreed to his suggestion, to make a "shoe" for himself.
There is actually a valuable lesson of life in this story: to make this world a happy place to live, you better change yourself - your heart; and not the world.